Your first time is NOT supposed to hurt

You are NOT supposed to bleed

If you bleed, that is NOT your hymen being ‘popped’, it is a tear due to lack of sexual arousal and natural lubrication.

This is all a MYTH perpetrated by men so they don’t have to make sure you are comfortable and sufficiently aroused enough before you have sex with them. It is an excuse to disregard and hurt you.

I just really want women to know this.

wait…. really?

yes really

Not completely true, in my own personal experience. I bled—a LITTLE the first time, and maybe even the second, and there wasn’t any issue with lubrication. And he made a point to take it slowly. And it DID hurt a little—not enough to make me sob, but it stung pretty bad at first. The pain did go away fairly quickly, though, and I didn’t really have any residual soreness.

My point is, he was very careful and considerate, I was absolutely ready AND we added lubrication in addition to that to be safe, and it still hurt a little and I bled a little too. Gushing blood and intense pain may not be normal, but I believe a small amount may be. 

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